Is This Love?

     Ann has been talking to Bob for over a year and Bob is in college now.  Their relationship is strained but Ann is still holding on. Ann “loves” Bob and is committed to him. When I asked Ann what they considered each other, Ann could not answer me. She did not know whether or not Bob considered her his one and only. They do not have the title that goes along with being in a relationship, yet Ann is emotionally and physically attached. Bob is the reason they do not have the title. He claims to be too busy for a relationship despite the fact that he expects her to talk to only him. Anytime Bob calls Ann, she answers. On the other hand, Bob goes hours without replying to Ann’s texts and calls. She likes to believe Bob is committed to her but she is afraid to confront the situation. Ann is going off to college soon and does not want to feel the burden of heartbreak even though she is suspicious of his actions while she is not present. She would rather not know what he does in his spare time.

What does Ann’s situation sound like to you?

What would you do if you were in her situation?

Why do you think Bob is saying Ann cannot talk to other people, but he does not want a relationship?

What do you recommend Ann do?

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